Saturday, January 25, 2014
With the winter season
in full swing, there always seems to come a time of reflection that can often
lead to second-guesses and detachment.
The, at times, dreary
Pacific Northwest weather can tend to throw all of us into a daze, given that
we allow it to do so. With an unfamiliar, ever-changing experience like
college, this weather-induced daze can often result in a period of reflection
full of second-guesses and faux regrets. It's easy to let yourself begin to question
whether you made the right decision to attend the college or university that
you chose or whether attending college was the right decision at all.
While most everyone goes
through the aforementioned period of contemplation, it can become even more
damaging when it's allowed to transform into a period of detachment. When you
allow yourself to become detached, you begin to impact not only yourself, but
also your friends, family, classmates, and all other parties that you interact
with on a daily basis.
Whether this time of
detachment lasts a week, month, quarter, or year, it begins to wear you and
your most critical relationships down. With these thoughts in mind, I'd like to
share a quote from one of my favorite comedians, Louis C.K.
"You’ll be fine. You’re 25. Feeling unsure
and lost is part of your path. Don’t avoid it. See what those feelings are
showing you and use it. Take a breath. You’ll be okay. Even if you don’t feel
okay all the time."
While his quote
addresses a 25-year-old, I believe it applies even more so to those of a
younger age. College and your 20s in general are a time to be okay with
uncertainty and embrace it head-on. It's OK to feel unsure sometimes. Like
Louis C.K. said, see what your feelings are showing you and use them to move
forward in the direction that makes you happy. Take a deep breath; try not to
allow yourself to become detached from your friends and family, and turn this
time of reflection into a positive step toward the path that makes you
Austin Porter | NSM